Wednesday, November 28, 2018

In Gratitude of Mum

  I think one of the keys to happiness, if there is a key, is cultivating a Gratitude Practice. Gratitude brings you into the present moment and connects you to the abundance of everything around you. It adds sweetness to the bitter and beauty to the mundane. It is not just a spice of life, but a kind of life force itself.

Having a practice of gratitude requires discipline; it means that you do it consistently, even when you don't feel like it or don't have time or are not even feeling particularly grateful. It is especially useful when outside circumstances are less than ideal and you are struggling. It is helpful to have a record of the "good stuff" when things are difficult and it's hard to remember the good.

I began my Gratitude Practice in June of 2015 at a particularly challenging time in my life.  I was back to having migraines every day and was exhausted and had brain fog that I couldn't shake. I discovered 6 weeks later that the pharmacy had cut my dosage of thyroid medication in half when it did the conversion math to generic meds; and so I was grateful with that discovery; and how much better I felt back on my proper dose. It made feeling better even easier!

Prior to finding out about my thyroid meds, I thought, "I gotta do something, here," as I was in the Pit of Despair. So I got one of my pretty little A6-sized journals that I'd been hoarding,  and started a separate, dedicated journal of all the good stuff.  Paraphrasing Victor Frankl, outside circumstances don't have to dictate the inner landscape of your attitude or feelings.

What I didn't realize at the time, was that I was also documenting the last 5 months of my life with Mum. I spent almost every evening with her, and in my journal I wrote seemingly mundane things like, "Tonight, Mum made soft-boiled eggs and soldiers with knobby greens (Brussel sprouts)."

Eggs and soldiers.

 Or another time, on the way to her place, I watched in wonder as traffic stopped both ways to let a mother skunk and her 2 babies waddle across the road and disappear up a hill. I wrote about the magical light show of watching the first night of fire flies and the perfume of honeysuckle and the sounds of frog songs and toad trills. These were things I might have a vague memory of, but as Anais Nin says, "We write to taste life twice."  These memories are particularly sweet.

It was after Mum's car accident that I was astonished by the power of a Gratitude Journal to keep me grounded and sane. By then, gratitude had become a daily ritual and habit. My sibs and I took shifts and stayed with Mum at the hospital; I stayed til 10p and then would drive home.

As I lay snuggled up with Beagle-boy Buddy at the end of a long day, I would write things like, "I am so grateful that Mum told the nurses she had bossy daughters," because it meant she still had some spunk. I was grateful for the nurses and then later, Hospice, that brought her home where she wanted to be. I was grateful that she finally got to have a cuppa tea when she got settled into bed in her flat.

One of those ordinary days. There's her favourite tea cup, too. 

I was grateful that we got to say goodbye and that she was surrounded by her loved ones at the end.
For all of that, I am grateful.
Mum looking snazzy.  :-)
Most of all, I am grateful that she was my mother because there were rocky, teenage-into-my-early-20s-times, when I wasn't. I am grateful that I had this blog when I moved across the river from her, so that I could keep an online journal for her. I documented the funny things she said and photos or ordinary vizzies and I was able to express my appreciation to her in a way that doesn't translate with a card. Altho, of course I gave her those, too! 

She was typically British with a stiff upper lip, and would roll her eyes if things got too sappy or sentimental. But when we were cleaning out her flat, I found a box, tucked away, that had all the cards and letters friends and fam had written her. And in there, she had printed out the first Mother's Day post I did for her.

It has been 3 years since she died.  I didn't know how I would get thru those first few months; but somehow, the months have turned into years. I think of her everyday, but now I can smile. I like to think that somewhere, she is smiling down on us, too.  At Thanksgiving, we went to Pioneer Sister's new seafood restaurant, Crabby Maggie's. It felt like the first family gathering that didn't have a gaping hole where Mum should be. It was joyful and fun and great to spend time with the whole fam.  In addition to the traditional T-day fare, we started off with trays of JUMBO shrimp. After that, as the regular food was dished out, nephew Ro said, "I was told there would be crab legs."  My BIL said, "You want crab legs?  You got crab legs!" And a few minutes later out came a tray of giant ones.

My niece has been playing violin for a couple years now. She played Bach's third Brandenburg and Chiro-sis and I just sat there and wept, she was so good! Mum would be so proud of her!  Mum played violin at her age and I imagine that she looked very much like my niece, with her red hair swinging as she swayed with the music. It was so sweet and it was such a BEAUTIFUL day.  And it made me so grateful for our family and to be part of Queen Anne's Clan. 

I continue to be Anne Holliday's daughter; and so GRATEFUL to be so.  :-)

Tuesday, November 20, 2018

The Science of GRATITUDE

Loyal readers of this blog are familiar with our beLOVEd Bruce Lipton. Just in time for the season of Gratitude, comes this brilliant explanation of how gratitude enhances your health, happiness and life! EnJOY!!!  :-)

"Whatever you're waiting for, be of peace of mind, contentment, health. It will surely come; but only when you're ready to receive it with openness and gratitude. Of all the characteristics needed for both a happy and morally decent life, none surpasses gratitude. Happiness and health are the just rewards for living in gratitude." ~ Ben Franklin

Thursday, August 9, 2018

Do You Suffer from Lid Temple Syndrome?

LOVE this from Kyle Cease!

"It's so soft . . . and less liddy."

"It's easier done, than said."  That would make a good bumper sticker / T-shirt / coffee mug!   

I think he could do a follow-up mockumentary, possibly with JP Sears.  "Do you suffer from Lid Temple Syndrome?" with a shot of people in ordinary life with lids on their heads. 

"Symptoms of LTS include: limiting beliefs, self-doubt, low self-esteem, fatigue, binge-watching shows you don't even like."

Kyle:  "I have a dream that one day, people will walk around without lids on their temples."   

And then some naysayer in a white coat saying, "This needs PEER-REVIEWED research before you irresponsibly tell people they can perform a lid-ectomy without a B.C.L.T.S.  (Board Certified Lid Temple Specialist).  

"Ask your doctor . . . ."  

In the meantime, I did a Rumi graphic:

Just because most people have lid temple doesn't make it normal. It just makes it common.  Of course, that's just crazy talk, because there's no such thing as Lid Temple. 

Or is there?

Another graphic:


Sunday, April 29, 2018

A Literal Squirrel Moment!

What's this?

I heard beagle girl Baby Ah-ROO-ing a "This is mine!" in the backyard. I looked out to see a squirrel on the ground in between Buddy & Baby. So I managed to ninja-maneuver-scoop it up with my jacket.

Here's a video:

Friday, April 20, 2018

Journal for Memorial of Roy Frasier

Latest journal.  Here's the front:


Shot of back with spine:

Video flip-thru:


Monday, April 16, 2018

HAPPY Birthday from Magnolia May

Today is John Morgan's birthday.  Loyal readers of this blog know all about him!  Over the course of almost 11 years, I have peppered in stories of our conversations. He is one of the funniest people I know, with a dry sense of humoUr and quick wit. It is because of him that Magnolia May was born, when we were on the phone and I got a delivery from a planner company.  

"I can NOT listen to you BLATHER ON about another planner . . . UNLESS YOU DO IT WITH AN ACCENT!"  And so I went thru the unboxing with him, ooh-ing and ah-ing with a few Southernisms thrown in. In honoUr of today, here's the first video of MM:

And as John says, ALL THE BEST!!!  :-)

Thursday, March 29, 2018

First Night of Toads Trilling

Spring has sprung and the frogs have been singing all week!  Last night, the toads joined in for the first time. Also featured, sounds from my dogs and neighbor dogs!  :-)

Tuesday, March 20, 2018

Lulu Photo Shoot

This is the second time I've taken photos of Lulu. Here's the first photo shoot. 

Going for  walk: 
Looking like she's on the catwalk.

Looking at Dad.

The my friend and Ed's wife, Janet joined us for a few pix:

Here are the Waterlogue pix:

Also saw a blue bird on the walk:

But this is still my favourite:

Friday, March 16, 2018

Classics Booksmith Challenge

This is my Booksmith tome for the Nik the Booksmith Classics Challenge:

To learn how to make your own Booksmith journals, check out Nik's Teachable courses.

To see all the other journals for the challenge (and be blown away by their talent)! click HERE for the playlist.

Monday, March 12, 2018

Magnolia May's Guide to Junk Journaling

Magnolia May DeSolay gives her take on Junk Journaling. There will most likely need to be a Part 2!

Links to things 'n' people mentioned: Nik The Booksmith: Jibid Neary: Jibid's digi-kits: I'm A Cool Mom: Tracie Fox: Nazy at Amity Bloom:

Tuesday, January 16, 2018

Baby Pix

She came to me with the name Brandine; Brandy for short. I've called her Baby, short for Baby Goat Antelope, Adorable Darling Sweetheart Beagle Girl Brandy.  See? Shorter to call her Baby. And she is. When she's not anteloping around the house, she's snuggled up.

Under my desk with and assortment of toys, including a paper plate from the recycling.

Reggie didn't usually go on the Meditation Chair, but here he is with Baby:


After a bag of dog food is finished, I let the dogs play with the bag:

With Buddy outside:

Winston Churchill.

My favourite pix are of her and Buddy curled up on the Meditation Chair:
Buddy on left, Baby on right.

Look at Buddy's little tongue sticking out.  Awww . . . .


With Tabby Bobcat:

And in the bedroom:
Zzzzzz . . . .